Legal Eagle Wedding Watch: Smart Alex

We’re bummed that we can’t write this week about the groom who arranges music for Yo-Yo Ma and Jay-Z. Or the one who’s associate counsel for the NBA.
But lawyer-lawyer couples abound, and we know those are the pairings ATL readers crave. Here are our finalists:
1. Lisa Kutlin and Alexander Goldenberg
More about these legal lovebirds, after the jump.

1. Lisa Kutlin and Alexander Goldenberg
(Buy them a salad plate.)
The Case:
- Four different schools here, all of roughly equal distinction. The bride went to the University of Chicago and got her JD, cum laude, from Georgetown. The groom graduated from Cornell and was magna at NYU Law. If you want to be picky (and we know you do), we suppose Chicago > Cornell, but NYU > Georgetown, so neither spouse really has the upper hand here. We like the symmetry.
- Both Lisa and Alex are clerking for federal district judges — she for Jerome B. Simandle of D.N.J. and he for Jan E. DuBois of E.D. Pa.
The Case Against:
- According to the couple, they have a lot in common:
“We both like to think about things, and like to discuss and challenge people,” Mr. Goldenberg said. And, Ms. Kutlin added, they both have a sarcastic sense of humor.”
Gosh, sarcastic young lawyers who “think about things.” How shatteringly unique and special!
- Also annoying: Lisa’s first gift to her future husband:
She arrived with a gift — a book titled “The Superior Person’s Book of Words: From Abecedarian to Zzxjoanw, an Arsenal of Verbal Weapons to Sharpen Your Wit!” “The gift was a jab at Alex’s custom of misusing large and ridiculous words,” she said. He thought it was a brilliant present because the first day they met he mispronounced abecedarian. She corrected him (it is pronounced ay-bee-see-DAIR-e-in). The next day she sent an e-mail message to him, including a link to a Web site that gave the word’s pronunciation.
If there’s anything more irritating than newly minted (nay, abecedarian) lawyers who fetishize their own large vocabularies, it’s people who buy, own, or write any book with the title “The Superior Person’s …”. And couples, if you must submit an anecdote with your write-up, please choose one that highlights your dulcet compatibility, not your eagerness to correct each other. Read on for how it’s done.

2. Shauna Burgess and Jonathan Friedman
(Buy them a box grater.)
The Case:
- Gorgeous Ivy credentials here: The bride was summa at Princeton; the groom went to Dartmouth (and we’re on the record about our weakness for Dartmouth folk). They both got JDs from NYU.
- Now they’re both NY Biglaw associates, Shauna at WilmerHale and Jonathan at Foley & Lardner.
- Both of their fathers are lawyers. Hers works at the Federal Energy Regulatory Commission; his is a partner at Friedman Kaplan Seiler & Adelman in New York.
- Remember your 9th-grade love, the one your mom used to drop you off at the movies with? What if you’d never broken up? For most of us, that dream died amidst the lush temptations of summer camp, but in Shauna and Jonathan’s case, young love endured. They met on a trip to the Galápagos Islands when they were 15:
Their affinity for each other was so great that dating — by long distance — seemed like the “obvious thing to do” even at that young age, Ms. Burgess said.You have to admit that it’s a lot cuter than sniping at each other about the right way to pronounce stuff.Throughout high school one or the other would make a monthly trip either to Scarsdale, where he lived, or Great Falls, where she lived. They spent much of their summers together. They went to each other’s proms.
In fact, when they visited each other during high school, each would stay at the other’s house. And so it went throughout college, commuting between New Hampshire and New Jersey to visit every month or two.
There were no tumultuous breakups, Ms. Burgess said. She speculated that one reason might have been that through e-mail and instant messaging, “we became great communicators.”
The Case Against:
- This isn’t directed at Shauna and Jonathan specifically, but we get paid to study the NYT weddings section pretty carefully, and it’s our impression that there are swarms of NYU JDs every week, versus relatively few from Columbia. This week the tally was 5-1, a ratio we don’t believe is atypical. Given that NYU and Columbia are top-10 law schools with roughly equivalent class sizes (mid 400s at NYU and high 300s at Columbia), what accounts for the disparity? Are NYU grads more bragadocious? Better-connected at the Times? More conservative, and therefore less likely to shack up? Hotter, and therefore more marriageable? Help us make sense of this.

3. Elizabeth Frieze and Matthew Prasse
(Buy them a $165 fork — because nobody else has!)
The Case:
- This couple starts off strong with three Harvard degrees (they met there as undergrads — he was cum laude and she was magna), and the bride got her JD at HLS, cum laude (a tipster tells us she was also a Harvard Law Review executive editor).
- Elizabeth has scored a nice clerkship with Sandra Lynch of the First Circuit Court of Appeals; she’ll get to work in the gorgeous Moakley Courthouse, a LEWW favorite.
- Like the couple above, both Elizabeth and Matthew have lawyer dads. Hers is a partner at a law firm in Wellesley; his is a partner at a firm in Cleveland.
The Case Against:
- Matthew had to leave the lofty bosom of Harvard to seek his JD; he’s a 3L at Boston College. That’s okay — he makes up for the prestige deficit by being totally dreamy! Maybe it’s the name and the Boston thing, but we see a young Matt Damon. And kudos to both Matthew and Elizabeth for the eyebrow alignment (best of the week by far). (Update: Thank-you to the commenter who pointed out that couple #2 also has outstanding eybrow alignment. Couple #2’s picture appears on their wedding website, not in the NYT’s write-up, so we hadn’t seen it when we first drafted the column, and we failed to correct our misstatement during the editing process. LEWW regrets the error and commends Shauna and Jonathan on their unquestionably flawless eybrow work, even when not required by the NYT.)
The Verdict:
- A bit tougher decision this week, with no SCOTUS stars to guide us. We like the Harvard-ness and sparkly white teeth Team Frieze-Prasse, but ultimately we’re going with the solid credentials and steadfast love of Team Burgess-Friedman. Congratulations!




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The first couple looks the top of a lesbian wedding cake.
burgess - friedman FTW!
anyone who is photographed at a football game gets my vote. i cannot wait for the season to start.
sad but true 3:31.
How do you go to Dartmouth and NYU Law and end up at Foley Lardner???? That should just disqualify them...
I like the gutsy move of being photographed in a non-trendy Redskins hat. The Skins get no love.
Anyone who says "we both like to think about things" obviously doesn't. If they did, they would not have said that in the first place.
Maybe it's just the stark contrast with the "We both like to think about things, and like to discuss and challenge people" couple (that sentence is not only obnoxious, but also quite grammatically unpleasant), but I'm totally in lurve with Burgess-Friedman. The picture! The summer camp story! I just want to wrap them up and stick them in my pocket.
Also, I think the $165 fork should count in the "case against" Frieze-Prasse.
Yup, yup. #1 is no doubt a lesbo duet.
There was a partner from Davis Polk in the NYT weddings section that married a GC at ING Groep and wasn't selected for even a write up--poor reporting Lin!
There was a partner from Davis Polk in the NYT weddings section that married a GC at ING Groep and wasn't selected for even a write up--poor reporting Lin!
But steadfast love doesn't work for a gossip blog. How about something more tempestuous?
Frankly, the whole registry should count as a case against: I read through and thought the $165 fork was a one-off keepsake, but no, they're asking for _TWELVE FREAKING $165 FORKS!!!!!_ - and that's merely one utensil in their $8100 silverware request. Kudos to their friends, who it appears are having none of it.
Oh, and us NYU kids are just more likely to get married: we're total keepers.
burgess-friedman! true love is prestigious, no matter where it graduated from.
I wonder why anyone would go from Harvard undergrad to a much-lower-tiered law school. Harvard-to-BC isn't that drastic (wasn't John Kerry Yale-to-BC?). But what about the bride with the Harvard-to-Brooklyn trajectory? If half of what L2L says is true, it seems like going to BLS (and finishing outside the top 5%) would pretty much destroy the marketability of the Harvard degree. Aren't there enough employment options for a Harvard undergrad to keep them from risking it all on a top 5% finish from BLS or its ilk? Seems to me like a Harvard undergrad would be better off forgoing law school if BLS is the best they could do.
I don't think my comment reflects a tierist perspective, either. I'm not judging BLS; I'm comparing it to the Harvard degree. As a rule of thumb, it seems to me that you want to go to a school that is comparably or higher ranked than your undergrad. If you can't, the big step down would seem to close doors, rather than open them.
Burgess-Friedman because:
In retrospect, it might have been Kismet even before that trip to the Galapagos.
“About two years after we first met, my parents put on a videotape of a Greek cruise we took when I was 13,” Ms. Burgess recalled. Mr. Friedman was visiting the Burgess’s when they were showing the tape and viewed it with Ms. Burgess and her family.
“There is a scene of my cousins and I playing some kind of game, when Jon, walks through the shot in the background,” she said of Mr. Friedman’s Zeliglike appearance on the family’s recording.
Upon seeing that for the first time, Ms. Burgess remembered, she, her parents and Mr. Friedman were “shocked.”
Burgess-Friedman all the way.
Go 'Skins!
NYU sucks as a law school. I dont know why people even bother going there.
Kutlin and Goldenberg sound like the hugest douches in the history of the law. They deserve each other.
Went to law school with Jon Friedman (and his fiancee, but didn't really know her). He's a great guy and incredibly intelligent. They're going to be that old married couple that we all wish to be!
I've heard that Judge Lynch can be a pain in the ass to work for-- good luck, Elizabeth!
Wait a second. Laurie Lin is not Chinese? All of this time I thought I was laughing at the jokes of a Chinese person.
"Well! Then, that changes everything!...She's not Chinese; I was duped!!...I'm not taking [wedding humor] from some girl from [Yale Law School]!!"
Just kidding! Love your column Laurie and I wouldn't miss it.
NYU sucks as a law school. I dont know why people even bother going there.
Maybe because its ranked # 4?
I really want to be challenged by 2 dork-jobs who "like to think."
Do these 2 have any friends?
Aw, #2 actually made me feel warm and fuzzy (notwithstanding the fact that he's from Scarsdale). What a way to go into the weekend. I might decide to do some pro bono this weekend.
Also, Laurie -- couple #3's eyebrows aren't aligned AT ALL. Actually, couple #2's are aligned almost perfectly. Especially impressive considering it's not a professional photo, and they're turning around in upper-deck seats at a football game.
Kutlin-Goldenberg- I'd like to beat them with a stick...
Here's to love in the cheap seats!
"Like to think about things" phrasing doesn't really support their claim of an impressive vocabulary. "Like" and "thing" are no-nos starting in freshman English (high school).
First, I heart LEWW. A lot.
Second, this week is soooo much better than the previous weeks. In fact, I'd easily take couple nos. 2 & 3 over July's couple of the month even without the SCOTUS clerkship.
Couple # 3: Extremely cute and likable; LL is right that he's a total hottie and she's adorable.
Couple # 2 is so insanely perfect that I should be convulsing with jealousy, but appears so intelligent (and not just in a collecting prestigious accolades kind of way), interesting, and non-pretentious that I'm instead feeling only "aaaawwww, shucks." Both cute, both accomplished, both high school loves. In comparison, my love life pretty much sucks, but good on them for theirs!
Groom #3 was cum laude at Harvard, so he probably could have done better than BC Law.
Maybe he didn't get into HLS but wanted to stay in Boston near his girlfriend/fiance?
He's hot. They look good together.
Along with 3:46, I dissent. Team Healy-Sandler totally swept this week.
http://www.nytimes.com/2007/08/12/fashion/weddings/12healy.html
Apparently, LEWW is now brought to you by Debold.
Kutlin-Goldenberg rocks. NEITHER sold out to BigLaw and they're clerkalicious.
Haven't sold out YET, you mean.
Stupidest thing on the entire Internet.
why is couple two and three so serious and squeaky clean? at least couple one has a sense of humor, even if the ATL blogger doesn't.
I worked with Kutlin pre-law school and she is great! Very smart and sarcastic. And don't assume that everyone likes to think about things; not everyone in the legal world is a critical thinker. Lisa definitely is. And knowing her, the book gift is hilarious. Some of you need to get a sense of humor.
I concur in 3:46's dissent: Team Healy-Sandler should get a write-on win. A third marriage to a widow is a lawyerly coupling; Team Burgess-Friedman's how-we-met story makes me throw up a little bit in the back of my throat.
Can we PLEASE have a LEWW comment thread withone a some commenter hauling out the way-overused "throw up a little in my mouth" meme?
It's no longer funny, people.
4:07, you are dead right. If you can't get into a real law school out of Harvard undergrad, go to someplace like the Woodrow Wilson School or KSG and try again.
If you don't, I really hope you went to Harvard on scholarship.......
Go with the Skins fan. Always go with the Skins fan.
Can we please have a comment thread withone a [sic] commenter hauling out the way-overused "meme" meme? Gould pretty effectively demolished Dawkins's nonsense about the possibility of cultural evolution by natural selection years ago. I throw up in my mouth a little every time I hear the term.
Oh, please. Tell me you didn't just cite Stephen Jay Gould. Did you pick up his book in the grocery store? Talk about pop pseudo-science babble!
Re the Burgess Wedding:
“There is a scene of my cousins and I playing some kind of game, when Jon, walks through the shot in the background,” she said...
Should be: "my cousins and me". A pet peeve, but this is so basic that there is no excuse.
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6:44,
I hope you appreciate the irony of complaining about "pop pseudo-science babble" while (apparently?) defending the "theory" of memetics. I could cite "common bloody sense" for the proposition that items of culture are not comprised of or transmitted via digital units and therefore cannot comprise a system of Mendelian genetics necessary for natural selection to take effect. Gould is one example, but any half-decent high school biology teacher could tell you that.
10:51 -
On a related note - boobies.
"I wonder why anyone would go from Harvard undergrad to a much-lower-tiered law school. Harvard-to-BC isn't that drastic (wasn't John Kerry Yale-to-BC?). But what about the bride with the Harvard-to-Brooklyn trajectory? If half of what L2L says is true, it seems like going to BLS (and finishing outside the top 5%) would pretty much destroy the marketability of the Harvard degree."
I went to BLS and you'd be surprised by how many students have fancy undergrad degrees. You'd probably also be surprised by how many of them didn't make the top 5%. Many people attend law schools that are less prestigious than their undergrads and vice versa. More proof that it's all about the LSAT.
Also, some people go to law school because they want to be lawyers, not simply BIGLAW lawyers. I know that's difficult for this crowd to grasp.
"You'd probably also be surprised by how many of them didn't make the top 5%."
I'm guessing 95% of them?
<3
1:05: I don't think 9:41 was suggesting that everybody in the class went to a prestigious undergrad.
WTF? Healy-Sandler in a write-in landslide.
Team #1 is a pair of twits.
Team #2 has a nice story, but we're considering Foley Lardner Biglaw now?
Team #3 features a 2nd tier law student with good eyebrow-alignment skills...
How do all three of these beat out the ING GC for North American ops and the freaking co-head of capital markets at Davis Polk?
Total age-ism. Laurie, you're usually spot on, but missing Team Healy-Sandler entirely is just inexcusable.
6:31, I think the earlier commenter was just making a point about a supposedly "funny" line being way overused and no longer funny, not taking a side on whether "cultural evolution by natural selection" is possible.
Just stumbled upon this site...what the hell is this about? A competition over which couple packs the most punch in terms of degrees from prestigious schools? Are you people actually lawyers? Do you have anything better to do with your time? BTW, I'm not a bitter law grad from a low tier school or something, I'm not even in law school yet.