Health / Wellness

When You’re Miserable Despite Success

You may have a persistent and disturbing voice inside that says, 'I am really unhappy.'

Ed. note: This post is by Jeena Cho, a Legal Mindfulness Strategist. She is the co-author of The Anxious Lawyer (affiliate link), a book written by lawyers for lawyers that makes mindfulness and meditation accessible and approachable. She is the creator of Mindful Pause, a self-paced online program for creating a more sustainable, peaceful, and productive law practice in just six minutes a day. Jeena offers actionable change strategies for reducing stress and anxiety while increasing productivity, joy, and satisfaction through mindfulness.

“I feel so miserable and the feeling of misery is making me feel guilty.” In speaking with hundreds of lawyers from across the country, this feeling of discontent — when there is every indication that you should feel happy — is a common one.

The lawyer will tell me a list of her accomplishments. Always thriving in academics, going to a good law school, getting the right job, accomplishing career success, making partner, buying the three-bedroom house (or maybe buying a vacation house), earning a good living. Yet, there’s a persistent and disturbing voice inside that says, “I am really unhappy.”

That is a scary feeling. Having spent so much time following the rules, checking off the to-do list, measuring yourself by some external yardstick for success only to realize it doesn’t deliver happiness. In fact, just the opposite. The more you follow the prescription, the worse you feel.

Read the full article over at Jeena’s website…