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Advice Columnist Tells Law School Grad To Dump D-Bag Who Won't Stop Harassing Her About Student Loans

This is your loan servicer's job -- not your significant other's.

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Let’s face the facts: If you’re a recent law school graduate, it’s highly likely that you’ve got a lot of debt. We won’t be cutesy about it; you’ve probably got a metric shitton of debt. If your significant other can’t get on board with the fact that your debt is going to follow you for at least the next 10, 20, or 25 years, then you need to figure out how you’re going to deal with that unpleasant situation — and figure it out, fast.

One recent law school graduate — we’ll call her Debbie Debtor — decided to turn to Lisa Rowan of Penny Hoarder, a personal finance advice columnist, to find out what she should do about her crappy situation. She’s been with her boyfriend since she started law school. He has no debt; she has a ton of debt. He’s constantly arguing with her about her decision to go law school in the first place, calling it a “bad choice.” He’s nagging her all the time about her student loans to the point where the “extra stress from him is so unwelcome.” Debbie Debtor wonders: “How can I get him to stop worrying about my debt 24/7? We aren’t married, and this makes me reluctant to be in any relationship with him — let alone a long-term one.”

Rowan’s advice is blunt, pretty perfect, and we love it. She tells Debbie Debtor that she needs to dump this douchebag. Check out her response (in relevant part):

If this guy can’t support your career path, can you trust him with any other part of your life? …

You may think I’m being hyperbolic, but look at the situation: It sounds like you’ve been together since around the time you started law school. The entire time you worked on your law degree, this man was breathing down your neck.

I can only imagine how many ways you’ve tried to reason with him. I can only imagine the stress his judgment added to an already strenuous course of study. You even said in your letter that while he has finally “come around” to the idea that law school was right for you, he still maintains it was a bad choice.

You know what else is a bad choice? Your boyfriend. If all he can do is criticize your chosen career field and the education required to pursue it, he doesn’t deserve your time and energy.

We could not agree more with this advice. If you’re already drowning, you don’t need to be further weighed down by some asshole complaining about the fact that the water is cold. Don’t worry, because your loan servicer will be right by your side to harass you about your student loans. You don’t need this garbage from your significant other.

Get rid of this jerk and find someone who’d rather gawk at your accomplishments instead of your negative net worth. Find someone else who’s worth your time.

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Staci ZaretskyStaci Zaretsky is a senior editor at Above the Law, where she’s worked since 2011. She’d love to hear from you, so please feel free to email her with any tips, questions, comments, or critiques. You can follow her on Twitter or connect with her on LinkedIn.

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